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Why is that the person that made you the other woman can just go on to another affair and your left unable to trust another person. I saw thru his lies and bull crap and honestly fell for what i thought was a good guy. Turns out he was good at cheating and using people. Now I find out he is still up to the same sh*t while I'm struggling to start over. I don't think I can trust my judgment in men ever again. If one tells me the sky is blue, I check for myself. I feel like all men lie. Sometimes I feel like I'm a bad person because I was with a married man and I deserve all the pain and heartache he has put me thru
Personally I think you should make a post about him so he cant continue to do this unharmed. He is a predator. He sounds like he is very good at making every woman in his life feel as if they are the most important which is disgusting. You arent innocent because you knew he was married and you still let him manipulate the situation. How do you think he is a good guy if he is having an affair with you? You need to understand that if you start any relationship where one partner is cheating on thei previous then you cant probably bet that they wil end up cheating on you to. You will grow very paranoid because you know this deep down but are so worried about the present to consider your future. You are exactly right, your punishment is to deal with the pain and anguish that you have caused yourself.
He can move on because he didnt really care about you. He paid attention to love movies and knows all the right things to say to make you trust hm and have sex with him. He knows that he tricked you so he doesnt respect you and thats why it is so easy for him to move on, because he is playing a game and you were the prize.
You should feel like a bad person all the time for involving yourself with a married man knowingly. How dare you allow something like that to take place and have no compassion for the wife at home. What did he tell you how unhappy he was and you had to come to the rescue? Have some respect for yourself and tell him if he is really so unhappy then file for divorce and then you can become something. You let this man have his cake and eat it too and now you are confused how he moved out without keeping his word and you should feel very foolish for that
Dont let one idiot ruin your trust for everyone else. Not everyone is a cheater and when you finally find someone that wont cheat on you then you have found a keeper. Most guys that try to whirlwind love you into the sack on one night have done this too many times and they enjoy the quest to make you believe he is a nice guy.
Ms Mad are you that surprised to find out that someone who is capable of having a secret affair would eventually mistreat you like he does his own wife. You enabed his behavior and gave him whatever he wanted just like a whininh child and once he didnt get his way every time he made up some bs excuse and kicked you to the curb. I hope you do the right thing and expose him but you are going to have to accept your consequences if you want him to as well.
Saying you are unable to trust after you were with a man who was untrustworthy is a little odd. You are knowlingly involving yourself with a man that is married but you decided to go on anyway and now that he is being dishonest and rude to you now you are surprised? I would say that you are being a little naive in your logic. Dont expect someone that is treating someone else poorly in a relationship to change for you. You were having a relationship with his represenative of hiself not the real guy. The real guy neglects his wife and lies about everything he does you just hadnt seen that side yet because you thought you were the special one. He manipulated your feelings because he knew you were deperate if you would fool with him in the first place. Thats what predators do.....find easy prey.
Only you can repair your ability to trust again. You cannot rely on other people to make sure that you are ina good mental place. If you have been cheated on you will have to first get over the person you were with that cheated on you. Do not quickly get into a relationship that will have you acting odd or not like yourself while you are with someone else. You should be clear headed and ready to put yourself out there again to make things work. In order to have a loving relationship you must be vulnerable and feel loved by that person and give all of your love back. Trust should be something that is earned not forced.