9 Secret Regrets of Cheating Exes
“You’re not sorry, you’re sorry you got caught!”
This is a very common line used by a spouse that has just caught their partner
cheating on them. Is the cheater really
sorry for betraying their spouse or are they just sorry because they are
Kevin Hansen, the man with 25,000 regrets -– all
entrusted to him by anonymous strangers who have confessed the biggest regrets
of their lives on his popular www.SecretRegrets.com website, has read some
of the most detailed infidelity regrets from cheaters themselves.
“Many people whose secret regrets are featured in
my bestselling Secret Regrets
book series are truly sorry for betraying their spouses, and are ready to accept
responsibility and learn from their mistakes,” Hansen explains. “Others try to justify their actions and don't
regret the affair -- they regret the way they handled the situation.”
regret looking at that email sent to you by another women that seemed like a
sign that you were cheating, or even just exploring. I should have known better
since you were in Iraq, fighting for our country. I regret going out that night
with the thoughts of that email in my head and meeting him. I thought I knew it
all back then, and with the conception of my daughter, I knew our marriage was
over. Although I will never regret her, I regret that she was not a part of you
and me. God only knows how much I truly loved you back then and continue to
even today. Since we divorced, you remarried, divorced again and live happily.
How I wish I could rewind time or even just have a second chance. I can only continue
to be happy for you from a distance, and wish that maybe one day our young love
will return and we can grow old together. I will love you always."
honestly don't regret cheating on you. But I regret how I did it. I regret
rubbing it in your face and making it public at work. I regret disrespecting
you the way I did and humiliating you with my brazen acts. I don't regret
marrying you and I don't regret divorcing you. But I regret treating you like a
dumbass who wouldn't know what I was doing."
regret being with other women during my marriage to get even when my wife
cheated on me. I never once thought of straying until I was cheated on. I was
devastated. I had no one to talk to when it happened. I regret taking her back.
Each time for the sake of our family. I thought being with another woman would
make the hurt better of being cheated on, but it didn't. It made me feel worse.
I never told her or anyone else for that matter. I regret letting myself stoop
down to that level. We are divorced now. I know that I won't stray again, but I
regret that I ever went down that road."
wish I hadn't left my husband for my co-worker. I left a sure thing. Nothing in
this world is guaranteed, but my husband truly loved me and still loves me a
year after I forced him to move out. I don't know how he tolerates me, but my
husband is still my best friend. Now I'm stuck with another man who tries to
make me feel small and ugly. He wants to bring another woman into our relationship.
I feel compelled to stay because I have nothing else, and the relationship with
my husband would NEVER be the same. I wish I could go back to before I lost
both my career-building job and my stable, normal marriage to a good, kind man
because of my affair. How did I ever allow myself to get into this
regret divorcing my children's father. He believes that I cheated on him while
we were married. I did not have a sexual relationship with anyone while we were
married, but I did have an emotional one with a man that cared about me. I went
through mid-life crisis and wanted to have some fun that I wasn't having being
married to him. I will always regret the divorce because I will always love him
and I hated what it did to our children."
regret meeting a cruel, vindictive, disgusting man 3 years ago. All he had to
do was end our sexual fling. He didn't have to rat me out to my husband. He was
so stupid to think I wouldn't know it was him. I also regret cheating on my
husband but I didn't need some low life to play judge and jury when he knew I
was married and he was no less wrong than I was. I did get my revenge by
telling his girlfriend."
don't regret cheating on you, it was my escape from your abuse. I regret you
bad mouthing me to my entire family. I regret letting you make me think I was
the cause of the divorce. I regret that you turned my only childhood friends
against me. I regret that you manipulated us into having a child, and blaming
it on the birth control when in fact you didn't take it. You said nobody would
ever want to love me. But I found someone. She is more beautiful than you. She
loves me. I guess there are a lot of things I regret. But not her. She loves me
for me. So screw off, my Satanic ex-wife. I REGRET YOU!"
regret cheating on you with women who didn't matter to me. I regret thinking I
was in love with the last one, the one that made you throw me out. I didn't
really love her, I just thought I wanted something different. Well, turns out I
had what I wanted all along and now it's gone. I've hurt you and the kids more
than anyone deserves to be hurt and I will regret that to the day I die. You
loved me, truly loved me, and when you finally had enough you seemed to hate
me, but I see now that it was just pain. I can't believe how much I hurt you
and continued to hurt you while I chased that young girl. I will regret it
always and I hope one day you find it in your heart to forgive me."
regret having an affair with my ex girlfriend. Initially, I kept in touch with
you because your son had died and your mother was also dying of cancer. It was
about being a sounding board for you, but soon old feelings surfaced. I've been
having trouble being intimate with my wife now and I never got you completely
out of my head. You acknowledged you weren't forced, but I still blame myself
for not having a better sense of boundaries. Now, I am soul searching to find
out why I did it and (hopefully) be able to repair the damage I've inflicted on
my crumbling marriage."
If you have cheated, what are your secret regrets?