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Affairs Can Keep A Marriage Happy?
Article by: CheaterVille Staff
August 22, 2012

Affairs Can Keep A Marriage Happy

For the majority of us, cheating is the ultimate betrayal and it would be a no brainer to leave the relationship if it occurred.   This maybe the wrong way to think, according to social scientist Catherine Hakim, monogamy might not be the answer for a happy marriage.

Hakim proposes in her new book, "The New Rules: Internet Dating, Playfairs and Erotic Power" that having an affair might make for a better relationship.

An except from the book, published by The Telegraph Monday in advance of the book's September release in the UK, says that "playfairs" -- 21st century affairs aided by the Internet -- could be the way to solve the high divorce rate in Britain and the U.S.

Hakim writes that sex outside of marriage is similar to eating a meal at a restaurant:

"The fact that we eat most meals at home with spouses and partners does not preclude eating out in restaurants to sample different cuisines and ambiences, with friends or colleagues," she writes. "Anyone rejecting a fresh approach to marriage and adultery, with a new set of rules to go with it, fails to recognize the benefits of a revitalized sex life outside the home."

According to Hakim, the most common time for an affair is age 45 for women and age 55 for men.  Hakim does not suggest that you tell your spouse about your affair—she states that the "first rule" of an affair is to “never [have one] in your own backyard where you are most exposed to discovery.”

If any of you have been on the tail end of an affair, you know the harsh impact it can have on a marriage.  Do you feel that Hakim is correct? Is an affair the secret to a successful marriage?


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Posted By: Present98 | 8/23/12 2:40 PM
Hakim is crazy I dont know what planet she has been living on
Posted By: gringos | 8/23/12 2:48 PM
what is she smokin?
Posted By: cHPs44 | 8/23/12 3:07 PM
To me the most common time for affairs are in the 30's
Posted By: majorlybad | 8/23/12 3:36 PM
I disagree with this research I think its nonsense
Posted By: multipotion | 8/23/12 3:59 PM
PLAYFAIRS??? Thanks Catherine but I think Americans stopped taking advice from the UK a lonnng time ago for a reason

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